Monday, March 17, 2008

Miscellany from Moni's

We spend a fair amount of time hanging out at Moni's house and eating, which was lovely. Here are a few random highlights from our down time:

Playing cars with Omi & Great-aunt Ulli


Smoochies with Omi


Daily coffee and cake is not to be trifled with, and Charlie became an avid supporter of this tradition. Here he is with a nice bit of cherry cake:


Playing with Great-aunt Moni once he was sated


A biblio-break with Aunt Niki


Modeling his new lederhosen (a gift from Moni)


Modeling his new rainboots (a gift from Ulli)


This shot is from Moni's pharmacy - I remember this chair from my youth. Charlie is resting here while enjoying some yummy Easter chocolate.

Sunday, March 16, 2008

Around Gersfeld

My mom's hometown, Gersfeld, was our home base in Germany. We were able to stay in my cousin's apartment, and it was so nice to have a kitchen and separate living space for that week. My mom, sister and Aunt Ulli were in town until the 5th, after which point we rented a car and did a few trips (more on those later). But while the whole gang was around, we took Charlie to do a few of the things my Omi did with Niki and me when we were little.

On a walk in the Schlosspark


The Schloss and pond (filled with enormous goldfish)


The Protestant church (where my Omi and Great-Aunt went - in Germany, kids follow their father's religion, so mom and the sibs went to Catholic church with my Opa)


Out for schnitzel - this restaurant used to house the Post Office


Gersfeld is in the Rhon Mountains, pretty close to the Bavarian border with Hessen, so it's a particularly beautiful landscape (more so in the summer, which we heard non-stop. March is not really an ideal time to visit Germany). We took a drive through the Rhon one day, to show Evan where my dad used to work (Wildflecken) and to head up to the Kreuzberg for some beer. The monks there have been brewing and raising St. Bernards since 1731.

The entrance to Kloster Kreuzberg - you can see the gang is huddled against the chill


Warming up with the Kreuzberg's brew (13% ABV)


Not surprisingly, Charlie wanted in on the action




Back outside, we were greeted by snow!


The most ginormous St. Bernard I've ever seen


Once the weather improved, we took off for the duck pond, a favorite of mine as a kid. Unfortunately, the ducks found us and our bread only mildly interesting, so after a short time we headed on to the wild animal park (Wildpark).





Since the ducks were so uninterested, Charlie at a good bit of bread himself


Feeding the mountain goats


Taking a break with Daddy on the walk home

Saturday, March 15, 2008

Happy Birthday, Aunt Moni!

We just returned from a trans-Atlantic jaunt to Germany & Switzerland. Our purpose was twofold: 1) Celebrate my Aunt Moni's 60th birthday, and 2) Attend the International Dairy Federation's cheese conference (OK, this was mostly Evan's gig). We spent a week in Germany and then drove to Bern, Switzerland, so Evan could "work." I'm going to divide the trip up into separate posts so as not to overwhelm.

We arrived in Frankfurt early on March 1, after the worst airplane turbulence of our lives. I managed to escape to a Zen place, and Evan had to tell me later that the rest of the plane was engaged in a complete and total barf-o-rama. Thankfully, we landed without skidding off the runway (which did in fact happen to an airplane in Hamburg that day), and got down to the business of the day: Aunt Moni's birthday bash. Moni's is my mom's older sister, and the 10-year birthdays are a BIG deal in Germany. In addition to E, C and I, my mom, my sister and my mom's twin, Ulli, all made the hop across the pond to celebrate.

Daddy gets down to beer drinking, Charlie wants a piece of the action


The Marbaise kids: Jochen, my mom, Ulli & Moni


Dancing with Omi


Unaffected by jet lag, Charlie rocks out


Taking a break


The Loper girls


The next morning, we went to my Uncle Jochen's house for something called Fruhschoppen, a sort of champagne brunch, but without the brunch. I guess it's a hair of the dog kind of deal.

Another beer for Daddy


Playing in Jochen's chair


The Marbaise girls


Charlie with Aunt Niki & Great-Aunt Ulli

Thursday, February 14, 2008

ACOG Statement on Home Births

For a slight diversion from my usual froth and blather, I am going to take up a bit of blog-space to respond to ACOG's February 8, 2008, Statement on Home Birth. (If you click on the title above, you can read the full statement in all of its inflammatory glory.)

Let's do the worst, first: "The main goal should be a healthy and safe outcome for both mother and baby. Choosing to deliver a baby at home, however, is to place the process of giving birth over the goal of having a health baby." Shame on ACOG for playing the bad mommy card. I cannot think of any woman, regardless of where she chooses to deliver, whose primary concern is not the health of her child. Further, the process of giving birth and the goal of having a healthy baby are not mutually exclusive; in fact, they are inextricably linked. Many families who choose home birth do so specifically because they are concerned with their child's welfare, and want their entry into the world to be as peaceful as possible. The excessive intervention that seems to come with hospital births often results in unnecessary interventions for babies, too, and much of this is avoided at home.

Indirectly, what ACOG is asserting is that, in an emergency situation, the midwife in attendance would not call on paramedics or transfer the woman to a hospital. It paints the picture that midwives irresponsibly avoid interventions even when they are called for, which is such a low blow. This (in combination with the statement that women who choose to birth at home don't care about the health of their babies) really accuses us all of a complete lack of thoughtfulness, when in fact, I have found home birth parents to be so well-informed about birth and parenting.
Further, midwives have the same goals of healthy mom and baby, and I can't imagine a scenario in which a midwife, under emergent circumstances, wouldn't transfer to the hospital. And even though, tragically, mothers and babies die at home, they die in hospitals, too. The notion that being in the hospital means everything will be A-OK is chock full of professional hubris on the part of doctors.

I know a lot of people have done some eye-rolling about Ricki Lake's film, The Business of Being Born, and that is reflected in this statement: "Childbirth decisions should not be dictated or influenced by what's fashionable, trendy or the latest cause celebre." The idea that folks would choose to birth at home simply because its trendy overlooks the real reason home birth has seen a resurgence: women are finding the strength to trust their bodies to do the work they were designed to do. And for many of us who have healthy pregnancies, there is no need to be hooked up to fetal monitors, have IVs or hourly vaginal exams to give birth. Most of the women I know who have given birth at home spend a great deal of time considering their decision (which you have to do, because lord knows everyone you tell that you're having a baby at home is going to grill you about your choice) and becoming informed about birth and parenting.

I think ACOG's statement really is born out of fear that midwives are encroaching upon the medical community's turf. And being that they are a trade organization, I suppose this is to be expected. But wouldn't it be better, for the health of women and babies, to acknowledge the work that midwives and laboring women do, and open the door for partnership in emergency cases? I'm sure that because the only home births doctors ever see are transfer cases, their perception is deeply skewed. But ignoring the reality that healthy births can happen at home is naive. The cornerstone of a good birth, I believe, is being in a space you feel comfortable - and if that's in a hospital with an OB, I think that's wonderful. Because wherever, and with whomever, you feel most comfortable, this is the space in which your birth is likely to go the way you want it to. It's really a shame that ACOG isn't interested in seeing this perspective.

Saturday, January 26, 2008

Adventures in Columbus

As is our usual tradition, we spent MLK weekend having a second Thanksgiving dinner with our friends, Ben & Kirsten. When we lived in California, they hosted a potluck Thanksgiving dinner at their house for those of us too broke to fly home, and usually ended up with a good number of folks. One year, we had 8 people and 30 pounds of turkey. . . but I digress. Now that we both live closer to family, we've decided Thanksgiving's too good to only have once a year, and we've traded off heading to each other's houses for the long weekend to hang out and fill our bellies with turkey and all of the necessary accoutrements. So off to Columbus we flew. . .

At the playground, where it was freezing cold!






Bonding with Kirsten over Cheetoh Puffs


Snacking on samosas and ice cream at the North Market with Ben & Shelley


Kirsten's nephew was in town, too, and he and Charlie had a great time together


Discovering a provocative new subtext to "Cars and Trucks and Things that Go" with Ben


He locked himself in here. I swear.


Heading home, and so happy to have his own seat

Friday, January 25, 2008

Knitty McPurl

I have finally finished a knitting project that isn't a rectangle/doesn't only fit a baby's head! I wore it for the first time while in Columbus, and it stood up well to the cold. I am still amazed that it fits, though I live in constant fear that it will fall apart while I'm wearing it.

Saturday, January 5, 2008

And I'm back

Wow, I really suck at this so far. I'll divide this post into 3 chronological chunks:

1) Pre-Christmas: Hectic! The big excitement included the following, which will be annotated with evocative photographs:
*Charlie pooped in the potty! He's been really into telling us he has to go (by saying "poop"), and although we've had a few successful pees, he finally went the distance to #2.


*It was finally got cold enough for the leaves to fall off our pecan tree, which meant Charlie got to enjoy his first leaf romp.




*Charlie got a jump-start on developing a male fascination with the Victoria's Secret catalog:


2) Christmas: Big fun with the fam! Here are a few pics, but for a rundown on the whole shebang you can check out: http://picasaweb.google.com/audlop77/Christmas2007




3) Post-Christmas: 2008 is treating us all pretty well so far. Charlie's having a great time playing with all of his new toys and getting settled back into his regular routine. His first day back at day care was great, he almost looked relieved to be back with his pals! We've especially been enjoying the new kids' museum in Raleigh, Marbles. Charlie's faves are the bus, train tables and pirate ship. I tried to get him to put on a tutu today, but he was having none of it.



His latest favorites are, in no particular order: condiments & dipping; the color orange; Here Come the ABCs (the They Might be Giants kids' album); chocolate (his advent calendar has managed to create a theobromine junkie); and the French version of Where's Waldo which is called Ou est Charlie?. Embarrassingly, he can often find Charlie before we can. Maybe it's a name thing.